Sunday, September 7, 2008
Parenting from the Quran
People are divided into two main groups in their parenting to their children, which are:
A group who do not know any methodology to parent their children, and as a result of this parents make so many dangerous mistakes in raising up their children causing mental disturbances and hatred between children and their parents.
The other group of people follow theories and conjecture that are far away from the teachings of Islam and as a result of that they make so many dangerous mistakes in parenting their children.
The reason behind the problems facing children is the ignorance of parents with regards to the Noble Qur'an. Whereas, Allah (God) Almighty teaches us a comprehensive methodology to raise children in the Noble Qur'an, however, because the majority of people deserted Allah (God) and His book (i.e. The Noble Qur'an) then they fall into pain, despair, and calamities. This fact is highlighted in the Noble Qur'an (And the Messenger (Muhammad SAW) will say: "O my Lord! Verily, my people deserted this Qur'an).
This diagram shows the current status of people with regards to parenting their children. Such that people are divided into two main groups, which are:
1.The major group: They do not know any methodology to raise their children and as a result of that they cause damage to their children.
2.The minor group: They follow theories and conjecture that are far removed from the teachings of Islam and as a result of that they cause damage to their children.
If a believer reflects upon the Noble Qur'an, he finds that Allah (God) states in a chapter in the Qur'an the teachings of a father called Luqman to his son. Thus the question now arises as to why Allah (God) states in the Qur'an the parenting of a father to his son?
Answer: In order that Allah (God) would teach parents from this the optimal methodology on how to parent their children. And Allah (God) emphasizes the point that the guidance of Luqman is from Allah (God) Almighty so that people would not question the validity of Luqman's teachings.
ALLah the Almighty teaches us how to parent children throughout their different stages, and from these stages is childhood and in this stage Allah (God) Almighty urges parent to emphasize the following qualities in their children:
1. Playing: Allowing children to play would increase the amount of bone and muscles and cause their maturation. And if a parent does not allow this to happen then it would cause a reduction in the size of bone and muscles in addition to a reduction in the health of the child.
2. Asking about what they see and hear: Allah (God) urges parents to enforce the quality of making children to think and ponder about what they hear and see by engaging them in constructive conversations and illustrations. This results in an increase in the number of neural connections in the human brain and the speed of neural signaling, which results in an increase in the intelligence of the child.
And if parents do not do this it would cause the children to have a reduced intelligence.